Friday, 29 April 2016

Forecast for the week: only slight showers of stress, mostly delightful, clear minds

During the first couple of years of my travels I only did tropical, exotic places like South East Asian countries or Australia and so whenever talking back home to friends and family the first question they'd ask was "how's the weather, is it hot?". Replies for my confirmation of good weather were "ooh"s and "aah"s, happy and jealous squeals. For Finnish people weather is very important - possibly because the weather back home is four-seasons-in-a-day sort of phenomena and summer is always too short.
One could say people back at home are somewhat obsessed with the weather and link it to happiness: sunshine equals good, happy life whereas anything else totally sucks and there's no way life could be satisfying.

When I posted pictures of the hot places I visited or lived in I would get an abundance of comments saying how wonderful life must be over there - because naturally life would be worry-free and perfect because the sun was shining and I was in the tropics. But when I moved to New Zealand and experienced my first winter in three years, posting pictures of snow covered nature barely anyone dared to comment on them but I remember one of my friend's comments: "well now I can honestly say I'm not jealous of you". This made me laugh out loud as it struck me so ridiculous. I thought about telling this friend that my life was genuinely so happy in this new country that I had completely forgotten the weather was actually not hot and tropical - yet I was loving it, whoaa!

Fair enough though, I have sometimes shivered in cold weather in a strange country and felt miserable. Those times the lousy, cold weather seemed to emphasize my misery of not having a job, catching a cold or adjusting myself to a different, strange country and culture. If you're not feeling good about yourself then grey skies can definitely make you feel worse. But I have discovered that if you're happy with who you are the weather makes little difference.

We've all seen those pictures on Facebook when someone travels abroad and posts a picture of the hotel (infinity) pool or the local tourist beach, maybe commenting how "life is good" or how they can finally relax and enjoy themselves. And yes, surely it's wonderful to enjoy good weather BUT I can't help but cringe when I think that majority of people have to travel approximately two times a year to a foreign country to lounge in a tourist resort's poolside deck chair surrounded by a hundred other tourists from around the world - also whom all can only feel relaxed there, a thousand kilometers away from their homes and jobs. Does happiness come as a two week holiday to a beach resort?

Personally I have very much knowingly stepped outside the rat race, taking time to just "be" and enjoy this great existence. Perhaps I used to be one of those people who thought that sunny, hot weather meant happiness, but after adapting to a much more free life style I've experienced happiness "outside the weather" if you will. I've spent a rainy, cold autumn in a small city in New Zealand, wrapped up in warm blankets watching TV shows and baking; to be fair on another occasion I took a month to island hop around Fiji with my main objective to acquire a tan. I succeeded in relaxing and enjoying my time, making the best of it, no matter what the weather.

Someone once said "weather is a state of mind". I believe that means when you're happy with who you are and how you live your life then you won't need sunshiny tropics to feel good.

Ps. Right now I live in Japan, it's a spring day and it's raining. And can you imagine it; I feel good.


2 comments:

  1. For me the weather is one of the main things affecting my quality of life - hence I have sought out the sunniest places in Europe to live in (after spending two rather miserable years in Ireland). No, having sunny warm weather doesn't make your life perfect, but for me having miserable weather can seriously dampen my experience even if all the other things in my life were ok.

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  2. I think when one's generally happy with the choices made and the life they're leading weather plays a less important role.
    Totally agree that weather CAN dampen your spirits and good weather can lift you up even when things aren't great. It's an interesting phenomena. The point I was trying to make with this post was that I feel that when I'm happy in general the (bad) weather does not really effect me.

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